Thanks for the advice everyone. And ggirl, I hope things work out with you and your friend.

Thanks everyone for the great advice! I talked to her about it yesterday, I told her that I will always be her friend and that im scared that she is making really bad life choices. She said that she understands and that she will try and make it better. However I dont really think she listened 'cause she came to school today and was saying she was drinking again, we gave it a shot right? I'll keep talking to her thought until she gets it through her thick skull. lol. Thanks again everyone!! Hugs and kisses to you all!

Hey Catie, Sookie, sporks you guys always give such great feedback to everyone, it makes me proud to hang with all of you. I think it means a lot to get your take on stuff as you are really living it right now!

G girl, I am really worried about your friend who is drinking. Think about this for aminute. If so called "normal" drinking, like the social kind, is at parties and stuff, then what is drinking and going to school?

It looks like to me, a cry for help and hoping to get caught. Alcohol is bad enough after hours. But during the day, and where it might be noticed by others, is a clear cry for help. Ggirl, you have tried talking to her and I am gonna recommend something, because this si so serious, that you may not want to do. I am gonna recommend you go to a guidance counsellor and ask to be anonymous, speak to an adult about your friend.

Just hear me out, ok? Your friend's out in the open behavior tells me a few things, and all of them are alarming. She is not talking to her dad or to her mom, which it is unclear if mom is around at all. She is not even being careful to hide her behavior. This tells me she is probably depressed, feels hopeless, and is self medicating her pain with alcohol.

She is heading for a big disaster, certainly her ability to make healthy decisions is compromised, and she might be doing risky things like, well, you know...unprotected sex, even experimenting with stronger drugs, and there are even worse roads that could sneak up on her, when she is not in control of herself. An intervention is certainly in order, and someone should do something before there is a tragedy.

If you are not comfortable doing this, how about typing a letter and anonymously dropping it in the principal's office or to her dad, even. Some responsible adult needs to know what is going on, not to "get her in trouble", but possibly to save her life. Think about it please.

I will keep you and her, in my thoughts...

many hugs, Sky xoxoxo

Hey guys.

So, you know my situation with my creepy Facebook stalker?
Well, it was completely gone at first... until he started talking to me in real life (he is in my English class). It was fine until about two weeks ago when he would start making totally inapropriate comments, I tried to ignore it and it stopped for a while... but then this week, he was annoying me before class again and I ignored him again. But when I got home from school and checked my email, I had about 60 emails from him saying "Hey sexy... sorry for being annoying in class today. I'll make it up to you...".

Then, the next day, he asked me out again.
I told him again, why I wouldn't go out with him and I thought it was fine.
Then yesterday I was wearing a top that was close fitting to my upper half (if you know what I mean) and the innapropriate comments started again.

Am I just being paranoid... because I think this guy is a total perv/creep.

If you really feel uncomfortable then you should really approach him and be up front with him about it.
No one has the right to make you feel unsafe or uncomfortable. It is also possible that he has no idea he is being a total creep, a lot of guys have no idea how to handle their hormones or talk to girls. Like I said, talk to him. If the inappropriate comments and things continue I would suggest speaking with a parent or school counselor or something. It is not worth risking your peace of mind to put up with this kid. All of us have had our fair share or weirdos/creeps or unwanted attention.

good luck with the situation!

Hey! Good advice all around. I think you should go one better. Speak to the guidance counsellor but dont give his name...YET!!

Tell her what is happening and ask her or him what they think you should do and what will happen if you do implicate him.

Then, confront him in a public place, but where others cant hear. Tell him this is his last chance to leave you in peace and that your next step is to go to the school authorities, and then he will get in serious trouble. Make sure you are ok with this.

If you are done with being reasonable, then by all means, go to the counsellor and give them his name, end of story.

You do not need to be harassed, and he needs to get a handle on this kind of behavior while he is still young enough to have a positive outcvome and make some changes about how he relates to girls. Sounds like he does not have a healthy role model at home.

Let us know how this turns out.

hugs, skyxoxoxo

Hey, Sarah, I know how it goes with the comemnts and stuff like that. But I agree with Sky. Don't do what I usually do by slapping him across the face when ever he says something like that.

Hey, Everyone I need some help. I have this boyfriend who is kinda weird and well lately he's been hurting me a lot by kicking me in the leg. But I love the guy. And I don't want to hurt him. All my friends are telling me that I should break up with him but I don't know. I feel so great when ever I'm with him that I don't want that feeling to go away. I just don't know what to do.

Magen, I know as I write this, that you know what I am gonna say, but I will say it anyway. Sweetie, this guy , you are teaching him that it is ok to kick you. Think about that.

If you and I were talking about a sweet little puppy he had, and you guys were out with the puppy and he kept kicking it, well that would be animal abuse. How could you "love" someone who could be cruel to animals, esp a little puppy that trusted him to take care of it, and he was being cruel.

Now take out the puppy, and put in yourself. Let's look at that. What is this guy thinking when he kicks your leg, hard enough to hurt? Is he thinking, "this is my girlfriend, whom I like a lot, or maybe love? She loves me? I am a guy. I am strong. I feel like kicking her on her leg. That will hurt her. That's ok. She wont say anything."

Now what does that kind of "love" look like now? Magen, just like we all said with our other situation above this: no one has the right to make you feel unsafe, disrespected, and now physical hurt? How could that be ok? And beleieve me, this kind of things, if it is "let go", will only escalate. Then it goes to a punch. Like a kind of "ha ha" thing, joking around. Then it gets harder, and before you know it, there is a slap, a punch somewhere else besides the leg, etc.

This is the path to physical abuse, and please consider what you are allowing. This is your precious body, which should be honored and respected, never touched or hit, kicked, punched or slapped, by another human being, ESPECIALLY when that person is supposed to love you and care about you.

I cant say strongly enough, to please speak to someone in your life, an adult who can guide you in this. Your boyfriend is right at the edge of abusing you, if it started out joking around, you have now expressed it hurts. Pain. Pain equals abuse. And if it has become a habit with him, and you have never said anything, well then now is the time.

I know you love Em. Believe it or not, I do too. I admire him a lot. He has admitted he needed to get some help with his anger. I have heard he is a good dad. How do you think he would react to someone treating his Hailey like that? Not very well, I imagine! So I know you are tough, Magen. Your writing shows me that. You are amazing and filled with life and talent and potential. Use your own personal strength, to stand up for yourself. Let Em's work empower you. Not the angry part, the proud part.

This young man does not have the right to touch you with disrespect. Tell him that. And if he doesnt stop, then cut him out of your life. Set healthy boundaries. Do not allow abuse. It will only get worse and will kill your Spirit. Not your Spirit! You desesrve so much better! We all do!

Many hugs, and you can do this! Let us know what happens!
love, sky xoxox

I told him that a and he started going on and on about his past and his dad who got killed because of something not sure what it was. Then he said that he'd try better just please give him a second chance and this would be more like the third chance I'd be giving him. I still don't know.

It's not that I don't feel unsafe with him. Because I do. It's just the pain two days after or so that it starts to hurt to walk. He kicks me once a week or so though. He does it when he's had a hard day or something. I just wish that he'd take it out on his boxing partner instead of me. and yes I've told him that to. And I'm kinda his boxing partner some of the time. but not usually.

It sounds to me like this guy is just making up excuses for his behaviour with the stuff he's saying to about his dad - he really does sound like bad news to me.

I think Sky gave the best advice just up there, all I can do is encourage you to take it. No matter how much you love this guy, you can't let him treat you badly, and you can't keep giving him "one more chance".

Thanks guys.

Magen, hearing he is a boxer just makes me even more determined that he knows exactly what he is doing. Whatever happened to his dad, it will not change it by hurting others. Decide if you want to be hurt. Because a lot more than a kick on the leg is coming your way, if you dont get away from this guy, and quick!

There is a reason why you are here Magen. Reclaim your life. I'm serious. This is going nowhere good. He needs help. You are NOT a punching bag!

Hugs, sweetie! Sky xoxox

Having a little problem here...

My dad has recently been really depressed because he misses his girlfriend who he recently broke up with. He doesnt have many close friends, so he goes to me for someone to talk to, and I have nothing to say to him. It really hurts, seeing him like this all the time, and I wish there wwas a way I could make it better...

I did and now I miss him. Is that a good thing or a bad thing?

awww miki,

maybe you could go out and do something fun with your dad. take him to see a good movie, or take him to a nice restaurant. or even just go for a walk together or something. just knowing that his daughter is there for him will make him feel better.
if his depression doesn't improve, perhaps suggesting going to a therapist or psychologist would help? he can talk things through with them, and if needed, he can have some medication prescribed to him that can help.

i hope your dad feels better soon!